My mother taught me a multitude of skills: sewing, needlepoint, cooking, childcare, housekeeping, gardening, food preservation, the list goes on and on. But this post is not about skills, it's about the things my mother taught me about life and how to live it. So, in no particular order, things my mother taught me:
Ask questions. Never assume that the status quo is the only way to do something.
Learn things for yourself. Make your own decisions.
Choose your own life. Be your own person. Don't feel obligated to go to a certain college or study a certain subject or give birth in a certain way just because somebody else did.
Whatever you choose to do (from a chore to a career), do it right and do it well.
Never stop learning. There is always something new to learn.
Trust your feelings. If someone tells you something that feels wrong, you don't have to believe them.
"A change is as good as a rest." If you can't stop, at least do something different for a while, and the change is as rejuvenating as a break.
It is worth whatever it takes to marry in the temple.
Each season in our lives has a different purpose and focus. In our youth we have a season to focus on ourselves, and we should live it up because as we grow older we will need to be focused on others.
With that said, take care of yourself. If you don't take care of yourself, you won't have anything left to be able to give.
What you think of yourself matters more than what anyone else thinks of you.
You can't kiss a baby just once.
Fast games are good--you can play several of them in an afternoon and still be able to change the baby and do dishes and make brownies in between.
If you can't find what you want, make it.
Breastfeeding is a good time to read books.
If it doesn't matter in the eternal picture, then it doesn't matter much at all. Don't bother getting into a huff over something that doesn't really matter.
People are more important than things, and family are the most important people of all.
There is no such thing as too many cuddles, too many children, too much laughter, or too many books.