Inheritance

OK, so, people are always wondering who S looks like...(we all already know the W is daddy's "mini-me").
I was looking at S in the tub last night, and have reached some conclusions. In order to set debate to rest, here is what S got from whom...



Daddy's
deep blue eyes (mom's are greyer), big feet, two separate eyebrows (mom has a unibrow), big head, loud voice, fast-growing fingernails, dimples, and major fascination with mom.


Mommy's
high hair line, dark hair (so far!), high cheek bones and narrow jaw, receding chin, habit of talking all the time, articulate hands, and big nose.


Pretty good mix we think. :-)

2008 Presidential Solution

I don't know who started this...I heard it from a friend who heard it from her mom... but I found it amusing enough to bear repeating:

"There's no doubt history is in the making for the 2008 presidential race. We may have either the first Black president, the first Woman president or the first Mormon president. Why not kill three birds with one stone and elect Gladys Knight and call it a day?"

I wonder what Gladys would think of that idea?!

Big Brother

Wolf seems to really enjoy his new status as the big brother. He loves to kiss Bear, take baths with him, and he holds him without getting bored (if you know the whirlwind of a boy that is Wolf, that is really saying something!)

He often tries to help calm Bear when he's upset. First he tells me "Mom, I think Bear wants milk" (ie--to nurse). Then he sings "Rock-a-bye Bear-ee" in a very high-pitched and strained voice. (The crying baby makes him uptight, and he hasn't learned how to keep a calm voice through it.) Then he talks to him in a sing-songy way: "it's ok Bear, I'm right here. I'm big brother! It's ok..."
(None of these efforts ever seem to help, but it's cute to see him try!)

Now, amid the frequent repetition of the phrase "I'm Big Brother!" daddy has taught Wolf to say something new to Bear...daddy just read a classic Orwell novel you see...so now Wolf says "it's ok Bear, Big Brother is watching you!!!"

Oh my poor dear kids, there is no hope for normalcy, is there.
Hmmmm.
Thank Heaven!

Aren't Cloth Diapers Cute?!

Aren't cloth diapers just cute? OK, so the baby was a little miffed at being undressed and cold...but soooo cute!

It's just one more reason to love them!

Pictures of the wee bebe

Bear had his first professional photos today. Isn't he precious?!

Why is "Modern Society" so backwards?!

It's strange how our western culture has complicated child raising...People have been having and raising babies for centuries, and it never used to be this complicated. In fact, bringing up babies was part of every day life. There was no need for birth control to try to time babies, because they were not a hassle...caring for babies was just another thing one did, like making dinner or sleeping at night.

First they decided we must put diapers on our children, thus causing the poo to get everywhere on the baby's bottom, and requiring lots of cleanup...if you hold the baby over a toilet (or some dirt) then one quick swipe with a cloth (if that) and they are clean and ready to go play again. Diaper rash was unknown before diapers.

Next they decided that babies must sleep in their own beds, maybe in their own rooms, and shouldn't drink their own mother's milk... I truly pity the mothers who try to do this! When my infant wakes up, I attach him to a nipple, and go back to sleep. Rarely does he keep me awake for more than a few minutes. I don't have to sit up very often, and I have never had to get out of bed for him, let alone go to other parts of the house.
During the day, when he is hungry, he opens his mouth wide, and I put milk in it...so simple. No hassle with bottles and heating and getting the proper temperature...he is quickly satisfied, and I have thing simple and easy.

Now they tell us to put our babies in little buckets (aka carseat carriers) and carry them around without touching them..this makes the babies sad and fussy, and said buckets are heavy and unweildy. It's so much easier to grab a wrap or sling and just wear the baby--he can sleep contentedly against my chest and I can get my work done.
Every time I wear my baby in public I get comments--they range from "oh, he looks so comfortable in there" to "I wish I'd had one for my baby" to "where can I get one?" I've never had a negative comment about my wrap. The other day someone said "I wish they'd had those when mine was a baby" (her child is 6). I smiled and said "native tribes have been wearing wraps for centuries, it's just that the rest of us took a while to catch on." I now think of myself as a walking billboard for babywearing--most folks know a good idea when they see one, they just need a chance to see it so that they can get on board! So, babywearers of the world, get out and get seen! Don't be shy about your slings and wraps--show them off! You're bound to influance someone for the better!

Happy Poo Day!

Yes, you heard it right, today is a happy poo day. And why is that you ask? Because today, at one day shy of a month old, S pooed in the toilet! I'm so pleased with myself. I've been interested in EC (Elimation Communication, also known as Natural Infant Hygiene -- see www.diaperfreebaby.org ) for some time. After the potty training horrors I had with my older son, I was determined that something had to be different this time. Essentially the idea is that even a newborn knows that something is going on when he needs to eliminate...and he will usually do something (grunt, get quiet, stop wiggling, etc), so the parent can learn those cues, and take the baby to the toilet rather than letting them use a diaper. When the child is old enough to go on his own, he will 'potty train' easily, because he has never become accustomed to wearing his own waste.
I didn't feel up to trying to do EC full time though--there are those who literally do not put diapers on their babies at all (just holding a cloth under them or something) but I didn't feel comfortable with that. So I decided to go for part-time EC--meaning that I would start off with the easy catches--bring him to potty after waking and after eating (if he was awake). He stymied me right off on that though, as he usually likes to poop WHILE eating. So I have only tried to potty him very sporadically...as I have recovered more from the delivery though, I have been taking him more and more often... to date he has pee-peed in the toilet 4 times, and today I caught him on the first grunt and we ran to the toilet and got poo!
There are those who say that it's not Infant Potty Training, it's Parent Potty Training, because the infant isn't taking himself, but the parent has to go to a lot of trouble to always take the infant...I say, hey, every time he goes in the potty, that's one diaper I don't have to change (and wash!) Furthermore, that's at least one elimation that won't ever sit against his skin, even for a second--and with the sensitive skin that my family is prone to, that is a MAJOR pro.

The In and Out Baby song

[for those who remember the in and out cat song from Garrison Keillor...)

This morning mommy had the strange idea that she'd like to get a little sewing done...so with S nursed and changed and sleeping peacefully, I put him in the swing right there next to me in the sewing room...
A few minutes later S awoke and began screaming.
I got him out, and he promptly fell right off to sleep in my arms.
I put him back in the swing.
Wake up, scream...
Cuddle right to sleep...
Back in swing...
Slide down and tilt over so that head is at an awfully uncomfortable looking angle...sleep peacefully for nearly 15 min this time!
Then wake up, make some loud pooping, and scream like it's the end of the world...
Cuddle with mom, nurse, get a new diaper, go back to sleep...
Make many happy cooing and grunting noises while nursing and sleeping on mom...

Mom gave up on sewing and is now typing with a peacefully sleeping baby across her lap. Why fight it. There's no point. :-)
Thank heaven for wraps and slings, right?! At least I can still cook, even if I can't sew. :-)

The NINO Principle

Bear doesn't like sleeping unless he's in contact with a warm body--he WILL sleep in the swing for a little while if I put him in there already asleep, but he won't GO to sleep there--he'll just scream. On the one hand, it makes it hard to get things done. On the other hand, I don't think there's anything wrong with a baby wanting to be held.
I'm trying to hold to the NINO principle (gestate the baby for Nine [months] In & Nine Out). I came across a notion that makes a lot of sense--human babies are born less developed than most mammals--they can't walk, feed themselves, etc like most newborn mammals can. So, from a developmental standpoint, it's like they are born prematurely...before they are ready to let go of the literally constant maternal contact and care. Of course they have to be born 'early' because they wouldn't fit through the pelvis if they were any bigger...but that doesn't mean they are ready to be separate...so I'm trying to keep him very attached. He's an awfully happy baby most of the time, very alert too, and I genuinely believe that being attached is a major part of that. Loud noises and sudden movements rarely startle and never scare him--just this week I vacuumed while holding him, and both Wolf and the dog will hide from our noisy old vacuum...but Bear was peaceful as ever. I think it's because he knows he is secure, so is able to just absorb whatever goes on around him--without fear.

Scary Hair

Why is it that babies always have weird hair? S has a full out mullet!

Yikes! 3 weeks old and I'm already considering giving him his first haircut!