tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post616208051535131888..comments2023-05-19T01:13:38.607-08:00Comments on Mindful Serenity: Telling vs TattlingJennihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01279308378287322473noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post-39279237202127030752010-05-20T08:16:32.103-08:002010-05-20T08:16:32.103-08:00You also have to be careful about the emotional bu...You also have to be careful about the emotional bullying. Saying that because there was no bodily harm done, there is no foul isn't exactly right. <br /><br />I had a friend over the other night and we were talking about this kind of stuff. She said that her sister was really good (and exceptionally mean) with the words she would use. And she could get my friend so worked up that she would punch her to get her to stop verbally bullying her. Then she would get in trouble. Not that punching was the right thing to do, but verbal abuse is just as legitimate. (Sorry if that story got confusing with all the "she"'s and "her"'s!)<br /><br />I think parents need to rely heavily on the Spirit when it comes to "telling" vs "tattling"!Malloryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04991788960863652000noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post-66356435151246869932010-05-20T08:08:46.898-08:002010-05-20T08:08:46.898-08:00Aprillium, you make an excellent point that we nee...Aprillium, you make an excellent point that we need to make sure our kids are not afraid to report bullying or inappropriate contact. <br />Right now we have a nearly-10yo and a 3yo, and the older one has experienced some bullying (and appears to have some emotional/sensory issues) so he struggles with realizing what is appropriate and what is too much with his little brother. I don't think he's intentionally bullying, but that is what he's doing sometimes, and it's important for the little guy to let me know so that I can intervene and help the big boy realize what he's doing.Jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01279308378287322473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post-8292762170846285972010-05-20T07:25:54.223-08:002010-05-20T07:25:54.223-08:00I love the "sounds like you guys need to work...I love the "sounds like you guys need to work something out, do you want help?" phrase. I'm writing it down so I'll remember it. What a great way to put a child in charge of their own problems, but still provide an adult "out."Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17027223974027853544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post-31748208191861066472010-05-20T07:14:40.066-08:002010-05-20T07:14:40.066-08:00In our house it's Reporting vs tattling. "...In our house it's Reporting vs tattling. "If someone or something is going to get hurt, come tell an adult!!" = reporting. If not...it's tattling and you can figure it out. <br /><br />There are certain things that I need my kids to tell me that may get someone else in trouble... ie anything to do with private parts. And I need them to know it's okay to tell me. <br /><br />Also, there are instances where there is out and out bullying going on between siblings (my mom's parents totally let that slide and boy has that family been an unhappy one.) which is not okay as well. <br /><br />I have to look at it this way, I would rather have my children tattle sometimes and me tell them to work it out then have them not tell me something I need to know.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16620999018026605884noreply@blogger.com