tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post3877352064418757311..comments2023-05-19T01:13:38.607-08:00Comments on Mindful Serenity: Own ItJennihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01279308378287322473noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post-17311327594720852142010-09-10T06:27:51.255-08:002010-09-10T06:27:51.255-08:00Mainly the only reason I do this is with very youn...Mainly the only reason I do this is with very young children who don't yet know how all the pronouns and names fit together. So if I say "me" they don't, at first, always know that's the same as "Mommy."Katrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07678111707440064190noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post-13625057762540467122010-09-02T21:32:51.142-08:002010-09-02T21:32:51.142-08:00I totally agree with this. There is a lot of talk...I totally agree with this. There is a lot of talk in our society about women "losing themselves" when they become mothers and that they need to have some career outside the family to be a "whole" person. I feel like if I refer to myself in the third person then that is exactly what I am doing - losing myself. If I were at a "real" job I wouldn't talk about myself in the third person. It seems like such a small thing, yet when I use "I" instead of "Mommy" I am fully present rather than removing myself by speaking in the third person. <br />I have also found that my children respond differently depending on how I speak. For example, to use your incident of getting bitten, if I say, "You hurt Mommy" they just shrug it off - they hurt someone who isn't fully present. If, however, I say "You hurt me" then I get more attention. "Me" is someone they can relate to since "me" is also a term they use to refer to themselves.<br />Sorry its so long - just my thoughts.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12753847168007127855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5551466722529127235.post-6335075990053396172010-08-29T09:12:39.744-08:002010-08-29T09:12:39.744-08:00How interesting! While I don't have children,...How interesting! While I don't have children, I do find myself doing this with our dogs-- often. I had never really thought about why we do these things, but this makes sense!ashley @ ashley's adventures in alaskahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13605497528442641979noreply@blogger.com